Category Archives: Shame

Blaming the Rape Victim

Posted on September 6, 2010 by Flux

I have seen this quote in several places. If it is so frequently spoken of, I know I am not the only one whom detectives turned on:  Rape is the only crime in which the victim becomes the accused. – Freda Adler … Continue reading →

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Survival’s Shame

Posted on September 6, 2010 by Flux

I was really amazed when I started to understand how much of the shame and guilt I was feeling after the rapes was put on me by those around me. A lot of this from those who love me most, and are sadly ignorant … Continue reading →

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My Heart and My Flesh Fail

Posted on September 4, 2010 by Flux

I was having an increasingly difficult time in the days between the first rape and the time I finally revealed it to a counselor two weeks after the second rape. Out of extreme fear, I had originally lied to my family, … Continue reading →

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Flash Frozen

Posted on September 1, 2010 by Flux

I have been struck by the opposing thoughts that come at a woman who has been raped. For me, this added to the shame I experienced. First, I am told that when faced with terror, that your mind unconsciously chooses to … Continue reading →

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