Archive for the ‘ Shame ’ Category

Dangerous Counsel

18th September 2013 | 2 Comments

I met with an author and therapist who is well known for her work with trauma victims. I wanted to talk to her about writing, speaking, school, my work as a child advocate, and my future. She had interviewed me to understand my story. She kept changing the subject back to it, and how I must be sabotaging myself to have these things happen. […]


Broken Girl by Matthew West

1st March 2012 | 2 Comments

I posted this song awhile ago when I first found it. It is now my angry music when I am allowing the pain and the rage to move through me. Today when I was searching YouTube, I found this version which was created more recently. It is very intense in both the images the creator posted and […]


How to Comfort a Rape Victim

30th June 2011 | 1 Comment

I have an amazing brother. I have three really and two are so much older than me, our lives do not touch very often. In my shame and fear after the rape, I did not and still have not told most of my family what happened. This brother somehow found my blog, and wrote me […]


To Be or Not to Be

15th April 2011 | 0 Comments

I sink further in my isolation. I have now crossed to a place where I just want to be alone. If I am alone, I cannot be hurt by the pretending that everything is alright. I can’t be hurt by what goes unsaid. I cannot be hurt by you being afraid to touch me. I […]


Life as a Puzzle

12th March 2011 | 2 Comments

Being sequestered in my home with pneumonia has given me the opportunity to start a puzzle I have been wanting to do. It is entitled Masquerade, by Lynn Lupetti. I have spoken here a lot about the masquerade a trauma victim develops when the feeling of shame imposed on them is overwhelming. I picked up this […]


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