Archive for the ‘ Pain ’ Category

How to Comfort a Rape Victim

30th June 2011 | 1 Comment

I have an amazing brother. I have three really and two are so much older than me, our lives do not touch very often. In my shame and fear after the rape, I did not and still have not told most of my family what happened. This brother somehow found my blog, and wrote me […]


Anger Silences

13th June 2011 | 0 Comments

Preparing for this anniversary week, I scheduled extra counseling sessions. On the first day with my therapist, instead of feeling compassion for myself and what had been done to me, I kept getting stuck in anger. Since this was an ongoing trend for me, she finally asked me what purpose I thought the anger was serving. In the past I […]


Well Trained to Stay Silent

11th June 2011 | 2 Comments

Last week while I was meeting the director of the facility where I was brought after my rape, I was triggered by something we were talking about. This woman, a therapist; victimologist; trainer; and liaison to the police and detectives; knew she would need to lighten the subject to stop my downward spiral. She decided to […]


Anticipating Rape Anniversaries

25th May 2011 | 0 Comments

As some of you know, I am just a few weeks shy of facing the anniversary of the horrifically life changing nights last June; the nights a male stranger thought he had the right to violently and humiliatingly invade my body. The anxiety of it approaching has been great, almost overwhelming me at times. Some moments are so intense […]


Rape Not Believed

24th May 2011 | 5 Comments

I have not written here for awhile because I received a wounding from a dear dear friend that hurt so intensely I could not even speak for a few days. This woman came into my life eight years ago and the bonding grew deep, which I suppose is the only way the wounding could be […]


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